10 things you must give up as a leader.
#1 - selfishness
#2 - judging others
#3 - gossip
#4 - negativity
#5 - cliques (eagles don't flock)
#6 - making excuses
#7 - going back on your word
#8 - showing favoritism
#9 - waiting to be told what to do
#10 - being inconsistent
What Is Right Is Not Always Popular
As a leader, you won't always be liked, popular, understood, appreciated, respected, trusted, treated kindly, included and/or believed. Lead anyway. Those who are with you are with you, those who are against you are against you. Nothing you do can change that. It's the rest of the people, who are watching how you handle the above, with whom you can have the greatest influence. They need you to "know the way, go the way and show the way (John Maxwell)."
Find Out What They Value
The quickest way to get someone to follow you is to first serve them. Find out what they value, give them what they value, and pretty soon they will gladly do anything you ask them to.
Focus Shapes Perception
What you focus on shapes your perception. Your perception then determines your attitude. Your attitude dictates your behavior. Your behavior determines others perception of you, and the cycle goes on and on. Change what you're focusing on and you can change your world.
"Make the investment, stop trying to get by for free. Life doesn't work that way. Neither does leadership."
Stop Making Excuses
You make a way, or you make excuses. You can't do both. If you don't have the money, earn earn the money. If you don't have the experience, get the experience. If you don't know the right people, meet the right people. Stop making an excuse for what you can't afford, do, be, have learn, etc. Others are taking their cues from your actions, words and beliefs.
It's How You Say It!
As a leader, you can set the tone for others with the attitude you carry around all day. What are your facial expressions, body language and tone of voice communicating to others? It's not always what you say, as a leader, that makes a difference. It's how you say what you say, and how you look when you say it. Smile!
What to do when they don’t like you.